There is no fee for this service. Search As of October 1, , birthparents whose parental rights were terminated may initiate a search for their birthchild who is 18 years of age or older. If both birthparents were involved in the adoption plan, both must consent to the search in order to protect confidentiality. Putative fathers may initiate a search with written consent from the birthmother.
A search request must be written in the form of a notarized letter with one form of photocopied ID attached. This form is maintained in the agency file and serves as a waiver of confidentiality should the adoptee contact the agency for identifying information.
Information shared is from data in the original record. After the 18th birthday, a request must be submitted by the adoptee.
The request must be in the form of a notarized letter with one photocopied form of I. The written consent of the birthparents is required before we begin the search if their parental rights were terminated prior to October 1, If parental rights were terminated after October 1, , written consent of the birthparents is not required.
A search request must be in the form of a notarized letter with one photocopied form of ID attached. The agency endeavors to provide all requested services in a timely manner.
When search requests exceed service capacity, a waiting list is established, with requests processed in the order in which they are received. Was this just too-good-to-be-true? We 'feared' that with a pen stroke, access to the truth 'could' be taken away at the 11th hour. In that moment I realized 'fear' really 'could' be as powerful as we allowed it to be.
Strangely, I found great comfort on the Bureau's stoop, amid total strangers engaging in nervous conversation that was eerily familiar. A lie perpetuated by well-intended but misguided State lawmakers 50 years ago, who stripped us of equal access under the law. The tolls of those lies were being rung out in the hands of each of us standing there in the cold, shifting our weight side to side trying to keep warm and pass time.
It was cold enough you could see our breath dissipate under the street lights as we spoke. I hoped fear was leaving with it. By am, a handful of women had joined us. It was hard to believe we stood within 10 feet and mere hours from the truth, separated only by a glass door and locked file drawers. As each person shared snippets from their lives and the impact that decades of being denied equal access under the law had on them, I began to look at these grown men and women not as adults, but just as little kids in adult clothes, like Tom Hanks in the movie "Big.
It was so surreal. Thankfully, the smelling salts came in the form of rain, cold and gusty winds, keeping us lucid enough to realize we were not really dreaming and this 50 year old nightmare was almost over. Fear gave way to hope as more people continued to join us. There was a definite power in numbers.
By am, the line in the rain was long and winding around the building. I'll never forget the steady stream of Ohio citizens, from all walks of life, united by this one experience converging upon the Bureau of Vital Statistics. It was a parade of solidarity. A steady stream of umbrellas and smiling, hopeful faces about to make Ohio history.
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The media was there too. There was a ground swell of promise and the 'fear' of what 'could' happen was losing its clutch grip giving way to hope. We collectively realized that this was really happening today. This bond that we shared -- having been stripped by the State Ohio of our rights to equal access under the law to our birth records -- made us a united family.
Though seemingly exiled from our birth State, reunification came with our State courageously restoring us to full citizenship by granting us equal access to the truth -- an access already enjoyed by every other non-adopted Ohioan. If we as adoptees could risk the 'fear' of what 'could' happen, why can't Indiana lawmakers? Adoptees and birth mothers are tough, resilient and very capable of handling truth, rejection and a myriad of other emotions.
Adoption has a bunch of emotional entanglements. Indiana lawmakers need to learn from their neighboring state and the other 13 states who now fully realize no good comes from shame and secrecy. Being denied my birth records and the access to truth by the State of Ohio proved far more devastating than the actual truth. Notwithstanding the cabbage patch, these dolls had no unique origin. Aren't Indiana adoptees similarly situated? The doors opened and it was a blur, but by 9am on March 20, , I was already on my way home, having applied for my original birth certificate. On Good Friday, April 3, , it arrived in a thin postmarked envelope.
It only took 16, days to hold in my hand a copy of the truth — my original birth certificate. I remember a flood of emotions overcame me, but mostly relief. The right to this information has made me feel fully like an Ohio citizen. I no longer felt on the outside of my birth state, in large part because my State no longer barred me from the truth of my birthright.
It took another 3 hours to find my birth mother.
Within 3 days, we spoke for the first time in 45 years. Within 60 seconds of our first conversation, I was able to tell her "thank-you" for making a difficult choice to carry me, knowing she could not keep me. No one had ever thanked her for making that difficult choice. She shared with me her feelings of isolation, shame and pain of being treated like a criminal in the 's by those facilitating the adoption for having a child out of wedlock. She said she had no voice.
No, Indiana adoption records are sealed by the court. Yes, the birth parents may keep the records sealed by submitting State Form Individuals eligible to register include an adult adoptee, adoptive parent, birth parent, and birth sibling. Spouses and relatives of the deceased.
I was dumbstruck. She was so young and had no support. How could no one appreciate her courage to carry me? My biological Mother shared with me that giving up was a very painful process and after 5 hours of labor in the middle of the night, she fought to hold me at least once before I was taken away. We both cried. There were tears of joy and tears of understanding. It was healing and cathartic. I was surprised how much pain and shame she still carried after 45 years. I was relieved to be able start a dialogue towards her healing too. She was relieved to know I was well.
I felt no shame nor pain towards her, just gratitude to be able to hear her eerily familiar voice. I was grateful for the opportunity to say aloud, that I was okay -- the same sentiment I used to say in the direction of the stars, in a quiet moment each November 20th, for as long as I can remember.
It was touching to learn she too did the same thing for 45 years on our birthday. We've begun a very slow, heartfelt dialogue of healing and understanding. I am better for it. She is too. I don't know what the future will hold, but I know for sure having the right to access my original birth records was essential to restoring us both whole and giving me access to critical health information.
I still struggle with health problems. But, I have a social and medical history that gives me answers that I can share with my medical doctors. Armed with that information, they are much better positioned to help me in a meaningful way. I never would have had this advantage, but not for the courage of Ohio lawmakers to do the right thing.
What good comes from secrecy and shame? It's a rhetorical question. The answer is nothing. Adoption need not be shrouded in either secrecy or shame. What can Indiana Lawmakers glean from Ohio's learning curve on adoption? It's never too late to do the right thing. Indiana adoptees need a hero.
Together we went through each document and the Postal employee made detailed notes on the application of each deviation from the requested documents. Jennifer was actually very lucky that the Pastmaster bothered to take the extra time to make sure that the substituted information was noted. Unless, one is adopted. Plus my name was incorrect throughout the entire body of the decree, but was correct in the heading.
On February 18th, I drove back to the town I was born and my first mother and I visited the court house in an attempt to get a clean copy of my adoption decree. We were told we would need to write a petition to the judge and provide proof that she was my biological mother named in the decree. Again, how is one supposed to prove the mother and child relationship with out the document that is supposed to provide that information?